Lessons From a 2-Year-Old

I gave my son and daughter-in-law lots of gifts when their son, Elijah, was born. But none has come back to bless me more than the gift of Friday. Since he was 6 weeks old, I’ve closed the door to work on Fridays to care for and learn from my grandson, Eli.

In these two years, Eli and I have explored our neighborhood looking for cats, dogs, bugs and birds. We’ve met neighbors we didn’t know and found the skunk we knew existed but had never seen. We’ve played at the park, counted planes and listened for fire engines.

Last week, we took a walk to the 99 Cents Only store to see whether we could find anything from the movie “Toy Story.” I was fully prepared to shell out a buck or two if indeed we could find anything. I figured it was doubtful, given the kind of store it is. But the most amazing thing happened.

Before we could even get through the door, Eli locked eyeballs with Buzz and Woody on a gift bag. I was surprised and reacted with great drama, which made him laugh hysterically. As we walked up and down the aisles, Eli made one “Toy Story” discovery after another.

would have never noticed the things he found – photo albums, stickers, books, pencils, cups, plates, cards, keychains and other “Toy Story”-branded trinkets. The more things he found the more I reacted, which only spurred him on.

Here is where Eli and I are not at all the same: He didn’t want any of these things. He just loved finding them. The fun of discovery became its own reward. I, on the other hand, have some kind of automatic response mechanism that insists that if I love it, I must then buy it.

I learned a couple of important lessons from Eli that Friday.

First, I don’t have to own things to enjoy them. Isn’t that an amazing thought? Just because I don’t own it doesn’t mean I cannot enjoy it from afar. Second, often there’s greater value in doing things together than in owning things.

Creating this little game and then beating me at it over and over provided Eli with so much fun and enjoyment that the thought of actually buying all that stuff didn’t seem to cross his mind. He loved doing more than getting.

After a half-hour of treasure hunting, Eli took a ride on the 50-cent mechanical horse, and then we walked home. On the way, between taking in the wonders of bugs on the sidewalk and trying to decide whether it was going to rain, he said, “Ahma, that was a fun store. Go again next week?”

You bet we will, Eli. And next week, we’ll look for cars, trucks and anything green. And we’ll count the cracks in the sidewalk and look for caterpillars.

We’ll laugh and run and count to 20. We’ll enjoy every minute and make memories for a lifetime without having to buy a thing.

Update: I wrote the foregoing in my journal more than 11 years ago. In what seems like a blink of an eye, Eli is now 13. Eight years ago, little brother Sam joined our Fun Friday adventures.

While it has little resemblance to the 99 Cents Only store, Costco was the place Sam and I looked for hidden treasure. He preferred Mickey Mouse to “Toy Story,” and sure enough, without fail, he discovered that mouse over and again on merchandise, posters and displays that I would have never noticed in a million years!

Fun Fridays have become abbreviated as the boys have grown and school has stepped in to interfere with all of our big plans. But at the same time, the Fun Friday crew has grown as Grandpa has joined.
We pick up the boys from school and off we go to pack as much fun as we can into a few hours. We laugh, roll into 7-Eleven for Slurpees, visit every new park we can find. And without even trying that hard, inevitably we learn new lessons and add more fun to the memories.